Intimate Romance Advice and Tips

Tips: Introducing Adult Toys

First I would like to explain that I completely understand that many people are uncomfortable talking about and purchasing adult toys. I hope that I can help you understand how wonderful and exciting they can be and how they can add some spice to your love life.

Many people want to try them but for some reason they think that if they do it makes them bad. I’m here to tell you that simply is not true. Personally I think I’m a fairly average/normal person with no real quirks. I mean no more than anyone else. But my husband and I have definitely enjoyed using toys in our sex life. I think a lot of people that do use them think that they are for solo sex. Well, this is definitely not true either. You could feel that sharing a toy with your partner may make them feel incompetent. Again nothing can be further from the truth. Lets just go over a few facts.

First, we all know that orgasms feel good. Until you try one, you will never know how much more they can do for your orgasm. They can make them better, stronger and longer lasting. Plus they can help in having multiples. Now that’s a good thing isn’t it?

Second, lets agree that most people after a long relationship can have a very mundane sex life. You start doing the same old, same old because you know what works. But is that really any fun? Personally for me its not. Using toys can add just the boost that you need. Plus I have found that using a toy with my partner makes me feel that much closer to him. I feel it’s a very personal activity and I must really be comfortable with him to share with him.

Now third, believe it or not toys can make sex better. Lets be honest, a lot of women have trouble reaching an orgasm, especially during intercourse alone. Most of us need clitoral stimulation to get there. I don’t know about you but when I start to take a long time I can’t get out of my head that my partner is getting tired. Once that happens my mind just isn’t with it any longer. Toys don’t get tired ladies.

Now with these tips above in mind, lets talk about how to introduce them. With the above knowledge you have reasons as to why you want to bring them in but remember you must start off slow. Starting off with a bullet is always good. You can use this clitorally while your having intercourse with your partner.

Remember to talk to your partner. Make sure they are enjoying the experience and are comfortable with it. I think when they see how much you enjoy it they may say bring it on. But they can surprise themselves by liking the vibration themselves. Be sure to use lubrication whenever your using toys. Be sure to check out my tip about lubes.

Remember to keep yourself open to the fact that the toy you start with may just not be the right one and you’ll need to try something different.

Most of all make sure that you are making the decision to use toys together. As good as a toy feels the relationship is between you and your partner. You want them to happy with the experience and when they see that you are concerned with how they feel they may be more open to the idea.

GOOD LUCK!